Picture this: You’re in a solid relationship, making future plans like weekend getaways or maybe even kids’ names. Everything feels steady. So why do one in six adults admit to keeping a “backup partner” in the wings, just in case? It’s not as shady as it sounds, but it does raise eyebrows about modern love.We’ve all joked about those marriage pacts with a bestie: “If we’re both single at 35, then we’ll get married” Harmless fun, right? But this goes deeper. A recent survey of over 1,200 US adults revealed that 16% of people in committed relationships have someone currently in their life they’d ditch their partner for if the spark ignited. Not a fleeting celeb crush -these are real people orbiting their world!19% of men agreed to this, as compared to 12% of women. Surprising, isn’t it? This hints at a subtle safety net mindset amid dating chaos.What about the idea of having a soulmate?The same poll revealed: One in five don’t see their partner as “the one.” Women were slightly more skeptical. Blame this on the complex dating scene these days–from situationships to red flags, being vulnerable with your partner feels risky for many young couples.Yet, thoughts aren’t actions. Clinical psychologist Adam Horvath told StudyFinds that such wishful thinking only highlights what’s missing in relationships – playfulness, passion, novelty. “Comparing your real partner to a fantasy? That’s often avoidance…Crushes highlight gaps, but chasing them is the trap,” he said.Horvath adds, “What counts is honesty: Why the fantasy? Use it to reignite your real bond.”Having a backup fantasy might just mean you’re human, not disloyal. Talk openly, inject excitement, nurture the now. True security? Building with who you’re with, notdepending on backups. In a world of swipes and flakes, choosing to love your partner daily is the ultimate show of love and loyalty.What about you – ever had a “what if”? Drop your thoughts below.
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