“Marriages are made in heaven” – cute saying, right? Wrong, says popular spiritual guru Sadhguru. That romantic myth is one of the biggest marriage wreckers ever, he says. In his raw and relatable wisdom, the mystic nails why many couples’ marriages doesn’t survive the test of time: You expect your partner to be your happiness providing machine. Sound familiar? Here’s why Sadhguru says so and how his relationship tip can rescue your marriage from breaking:The heaven myth that’s hell on earthIn a short video clip posted on Sadhguru’s social media, the spiritual guru talks about the biggest mistake (according to him) that ruins marriages. “The biggest mistake humanity made was, they started saying: Marriages are made in heaven, and that’s why it is such a mess,” he shares.Picture this: Most people enter marriage with stars in eyes, fairy-tale dreams. But then reality hits hard – bills, kids, in-laws and fights. Suddenly, your spouse becomes the villain for not making you happy. But, that’s where most people go wrong, which makes their marriage miserable. Commenting on this, Sadhguru says in the clip that marriage isn’t destiny’s gift; it’s two humans navigating needs.The needs trap: You’re both needy – And that’s okay!Humans are need-machines, Sadhguru further explains. “There are needs in a human being – physical need, psychological need, emotional need, social need, economical need, and a variety of needs. To fulfill these needs you need to find one person to depend on.”Expecting one human to fulfill all your needs is a sure shot recipe for resentment and heartbreak. And so, Sadhguru’s solution to this is: Gratitude. “If you understand and are always grateful for it that someone is fulfilling all your need, you would handle it well,” he said in the video.But, problems arise in a marriage when people start thinking that the other person needs them more and they stop bring grateful. “But now you think somebody else needs you, then you’ll make a mess out of it,” he explained.Instead, the golden rule that keeps marriages running is according to Sadhguru is, “This is not about you squeezing happiness out of somebody, or they squeezing happiness out of you. If two happy people meet, then there could be something wonderful happening between them. But you are a misery and you think somebody else should be the source of your happiness. Well, it will multiply.”And isn’t that true? Have you ever noticed how a simple “thank you” or being kind to your spouse works like wonders in your relationship?After all, as Sadhguru says, marriages aren’t made in heaven – they’re built by grateful hearts.
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